Mat 10: 38. And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. 39. He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.
Taking up “our” cross is often not fully understood by new Christians. Is Jesus telling them that they were to be crucified as Jesus was in order to please God? Was it only by becoming a martyr that a person could be saved? Proper understanding of scripture always requires that we look at the scripture in the context of, who is speaking, who is being spoken to, and what comes before and after what is being said.
Mat 10: 38. And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me. 39. He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for My sake will find it.
In the preceding verses of chapter ten, Jesus explained very clearly that following Him would lead to divisions between a follower of Jesus and the world of unbelievers. Father against son, mother against daughter, division between the believer and their families including their in-laws. Jesus warned them that becoming a disciple of Christ would bring persecution and separation between not only families and loved ones, but also those in the synagogue and what was taught by the religious leaders of the day.
Mat 10:35 For I have come TO ‘SET A MAN AGAINST HIS FATHER, A DAUGHTER AGAINST HER MOTHER, AND A DAUGHTER-IN-LAW AGAINST HER MOTHER-IN-LAW’; 36. and ‘A MAN’S ENEMIES WILL BE THOSE OF HIS OWN HOUSEHOLD.’ 37. He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me.
Crucifixion was a punishment was borrowed from the Assyrians and refined by the Romans. The Jews clearly understood what crucifixion was, how it was used, and the slow and painful death that ended the life of the criminal. The most common place of execution was on the roads leading into Jerusalem. The criminal would be stripped naked, nailed to the cross, and left there until the body decomposed. Anyone entering the city would see the criminal(s) hanging there as a warning to those who violated the laws of Rome. It was, to the Jews, the most cruel, humiliating, and horrible manner of execution.
Jesus was not requiring His disciples to follow Him literally to the cross on Calvary Hill. At this point in His ministry Jesus had not given His disciples even the slightest hint that His manner of death would be by crucifixion administered by the Roman government. The cross that Jesus is referring to is the cross of self-denial. It is a sacrifice, that in order to serve Him, requires us to stay true to Jesus even when we must suppress our own desires in spite of trials, persecution, even to death if needed.
According to the “Pulpit Commentary”, “Cross-bearing was a commonly used figure of the day and stood for “doing a thing that was disagreeable to do, or bearing a thing that was painful to bear, because it was right.” In that sense Christ used it in our text. Christian duty is sometimes painful, involves crucifixion of self, sacrifice of natural feelings.”
Becoming a Christian does not mean that our struggles in life become a soft feather bed, and everything we face, sickness, poverty, finances, and trials of life suddenly fade away like the proverbial dust in the wind. In the Garden of Gethsemane where in a short time Jesus would face the trial of history, He reminded the disciples that they would face tribulations and hardships. In spite of what they faced they were to have “Good cheer” because He would be right beside them in all that they would face. Jesus promised, and millions of Christians have confirmed, that Jesus will bring comfort and peace regardless of what we face. (John 16:33)
We might want to choke our tormenter until their face turns blue, but Jesus tells us to love even the people who persecute us. That goes totally against what our brain and our flesh wants to do. And honestly, some of us are not programed that way by nature and we fail miserably. It took me years to overcome some of my human nature and there are still things I wish I had better control over. I am not by any stretch of the imagination suggesting that a Christian should let people bully them, or harm them or their family. We are not called to be doormats in the House of God. Only if persecuted for the Lord’s sake, are we to imitate Jesus in our actions. In fact, scriptures tell us that the man who fails to provide* for his family is worse than an infidel or an unbeliever. (1 Timothy 5:8)
- Greek: Consider in advance, care for or lookout for.
Gal 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23. gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law. 24. And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.
Taking up the cross and following Jesus simply means that, after considering the costs and following the example He set, we make a conscious effort to turn from sin and become His disciple. This is not a frivolous decision, nor is it joining a religious social club. It’s not doing it for grandma’s sake, or because it would please momma. Becoming a Christian means, we believe that Jesus is the Son of God. It is believing that He came to earth, bringing the good news of the Kingdom of God, lived a perfect holy life. He was crucified on the Cross giving His own life as a sacrifice for the sins of all who believe in Him. He was buried, and after three days in the tomb, He was raised from the dead by the power of God and forty days later ascended back to heaven to stand at God’s right hand. (Acts 7:55-56)
Jesus clearly taught that an unbeliever should count the cost before they make the decision to follow Him. It is not a road easily traveled. Jesus once said that the man who puts his hand to the plow and looks back is not fit for the Kingdom of God.
Luke 14:27 And whoever does not bear his cross and come after Me cannot be My disciple. 28. For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it— 29. lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, 30. saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.’ 31. Or what king, going to make war against another king, does not sit down first and consider whether he is able with ten thousand to meet him who comes against him with twenty thousand? 32. Or else, while the other is still a great way off, he sends a delegation and asks conditions of peace. 33. So likewise, whoever of you does not forsake all that he has cannot be My disciple.
We all have a cross, or crosses, that are difficult to carry. But the cross is not sickness, or a grumpy neighbor, or even a mother-in-law who interferes in our life. Bearing the cross is denying what we want to do in order to do what the Holy Spirit leads us to do.
“It’s all about Jesus.”
Diver Dan